Saturday, December 18, 2010

You know what it means to love.

You will be able to show someone you love them as. You buy them expensive gifts? Time together?. Personal sacrifices to see them smile? A song dedicated to them or not. Write a love letter or a note to encourage? To cheer them is a big deal. But my question is deeper then those types of activities, even a romantic partner than your Think about your children, parents and best friend, your sister or your brother, you ... all the people you love. How do you actually show them that you love them? If you want to question - how do you know that someone loves you or not.

The answer lies in getting them to know and love someone is to truly care about them a lot of depth and the fact that they have what they believe what they want, what they are. Do not like how they react under pressure. This is considerably more than their favorite color. Favorite musician is one of them? All time favorite movie or not. She knows that they do not like the taste of fruit in their coke wheels of lemon or cherry. I know that it is only then that she likes her bubble bath temperature. He knew that he likes wearing cotton and why. Know that this is a great gift for your birthday, they never know what to ask. It looks the same to the room and shared private jokes are not told. Love is the ability to see past a polite reply, "How are you?" And to know that they do not really "Fine thanks.


You get to this point, how can you look at them to see them. Questions you ask them. Do you really listen to their answer, you find out what you put much time and energy, or why not. Because you love them. "Because they fascinate you. Because you do not really have better things to do with your time. Do you really like there. You will never stop. How much, because we are a growing group of people?" We moved away from each other, because we do not pay more attention. We are bound again.
Maybe you have slides, so that your own needs are not met. Rightly so. It is in connection with the suction. No arguments, tell them, tell them you feel ignored and unimportant so far they are not lying anymore. Tell your mother you miss connections and shuts down completely. Tell someone you love, you feel that you have two people who work in a transformer, and it was not so close to impossible that you have. Tell your child that you hate the distance between you is growing. Access, and then with a request to unlock the secrets of my heart for you. "Tell me who you are. Tell me what you dream. Say you love ice cream with Oreos, chocolate for breakfast?" Tell me what makes your life, and I'll tell you about me, and listen attentively to listen. Listen to them response.
 
No one is very close to me and I do not know, Melissa Eterizh sang to me. "You can not listen to her songs speak to my angel, and I do not think so. If you really love me enough to know me personally you would know that they will play their music, this war was over at my funeral ever. You only knew that I long to visit Ireland and I love fairies because I think they are angels of our parents. You would know about "two people" as I write these articles and stories for you to know that "a year. Winnebago, "it is a question of you probably know that when I was very angry, lose control and you have to distract me. For some reason my brain to wrap around, and I'm starting to pull himself together. You would know that Lies my pet peeve of the largest.


What I know about the people I love? I know you do not drink caffeine anymore and always strawberry lemonade order when we eat. I know that when he lied to protect me, and when he lied to protect themselves. I knew the look in their eyes when my children are sick. "I know why she was trying to become a vegetarian and why it is not so. I know that music has on his mind, even if he stopped working seller. What I know about you, if I loved you enough to get to know you?


Thus, we concluded ourselves, careers, involvement, and our own personal goals that we forget to really connect with people. Love us or not. When was the last time you actually check in the hearts and minds of the people you claim to love? We all change, growth and evolution, they are still the same person you loved? You know? I'm not where I was fifteen or twenty years ago, or even the same person I was five years ago, you or them or not.


The greatest gift you can give to someone like and focus. Take the time to really get to know them after all these years. Falls in love with them again. Meet with them, as though you've just discovered. Of course, you have to respect the confidentiality of the faithful, they will not use the information to play power games or has ever belittling them. Which destroyed the credibility of the data to select the perfect gift for Valentine's vacation planning. To finance the complete surprise of their movies they've never seen. But love it or just bring them coffee in the optimal amount of cream and sugar before they realize they want some


This can be as simple as asking "Tell me about yourself. Tell me what the world looks like through his eyes." Creating a little time to say "I love you," knowing that "I love to watch them .

Friday, December 17, 2010

Ninety-first day.

A friend of mine recently commented on the huge amount of romance novels and writing. A lot of money industry. He then shared his observation that these novels are not usually tell their stories during the first ninety days or so. He said that people just want to read about romantic love is not everyday a long term relationship.

 
I told him that it is not necessary to ninety days. But with a number large enough to use for discussion. I also told him that the first ninety days of relations set the tone for the rest of the time you are with someone. As a general rule, if the relationship go sour in the first ninety days, he will not survive long. If, on the other hand, it's beautiful the initial ninety days, the relationship with the fund, which will be held on if there are rough patches in relation to the couple often looks back to move the honeymoon for the inspiration to work through problems. Ninety days, if not the first to create something that must be addressed motivation, this is the place to live, love?

I remember some of the relationships themselves. I have three important relationships as adults. One is never "the first ninety days." I decided to get married, who have just one with two young children have the opportunity to make my father. He really did not "like" from me, and he knows that in a relationship. The only thing that kept me working through the problem is that the needs of their children to the new dad around, if he violated the trust through their behavior in some dark part of him and them. He wants him around me, as an inspiration not to disturb him. Relations between the other first ninety days went on. Almost a month. For the first time in nine days, I became pregnant despite using two forms of birth control. However, during the first ninety days, he cheated on me and a few terrible to destroy our relationship. For the sake of our baby in the womb, I'll try to get it to work. Search the motivation to stick with it is extremely difficult because there are not many good memories to create hope Relationship another amazing and wonderful "first ninety days, which lasted for many years as a result, I fought like hell to make a relationship work long after the All around you see that the relationship has become a disease and self-destruction and our relationships with three good days and bad. Nevertheless, it is so easy to believe that we can have a wonderful future together, when we had a beautiful past together.

 
Ninety-first day is very important that the basis of "happily ever" attitude is not all. Perfect all the time. But there is a strong foundation built from the outset, however, that will hold, the call to holidays and holy land base must have elements of romance, trust, magic, location and nature of the long term, this same sense of how their life together will be developed. Ninety-first day would be something hard to believe.

Romance novels often end up happily married couple, and enjoying the beauty of their children. It's a safe
place to be at the end, because they already have a rock solid foundation for their lives. Look at the end of my Scarlett and Rhett, that the wind does not establish a firm foundation in the beginning of their relationship. We can only guess whether he will accept her back into his heart. In the future it will create a "ninety day with him, it must create an atmosphere of romance, trust, magic, places, and long term, this same feeling like life. Time will unfold. It is one to do it, because it is one who rejected his efforts to establish a fund in the first film. Then he must struggle with conflicting memories of him for the first time they have together as a couple, and a second time when they were together. In the end he will get in touch with the part himself, who loved you all the time. They can finally end "happily ever since the foundation was created as a result have been taken as truth. It's not often that people get a second chance to create the first ninety days.


I would like to request that the couple has been happily married for a long time, how they met. I also asked them if they know that this is the right person for them. Their stories in the first ninety days, often beautiful and often last longer than ninety days. So many of them are about love at first sight. So many people have one basic element that flows throughout the history of their relationship. As in the first ninety days, they actually take a long hard look at their partners every time they fall in love There is something attractive person, no matter what happens, they do not have to love them again and again. They survive the first ninety days, regardless of the UPS and downs of life. They rarely talk about the loss of faith in the relationship or the fact that ever wanted to leave.









Romance novels sell well, because we love the romance. Movies are not different from the book. Look at some of the biggest film of all time centers around a love story. We love to hear other people's basic parameters and amazing performance, he will not be demolished. It is hidden in the depths of the human mind - believed that "happily ever after" really going on. In particular, we would like to see a couple to overcome difficulties, only to have it brought them closer together. This gives us hope. It gives us something to aspire to the We Love the first to ninety days.